ProABAParents

Tool

Prepare for the visit

The first appointment is short. What helps most is what you tell and show. Gather this in a few minutes and bring it with you.

This is not diagnosis. The tool does not say what is going on with the child and does not suggest a diagnosis. It just helps you arrive prepared.

Who are you going to?

Documents to bring

  • ID of one of the parents
  • Child's birth certificate
  • Available medical reports
  • Hospital discharge records, if any
  • Vaccination card
  • Previous consultations from other specialists

What to write about the child

It can be brief, in your phone notes. The information matters, not the formatting.

  • When the first words appeared and which ones
  • Which gestures they use (pointing, waving, clapping)
  • When they started to imitate an adult
  • Whether there were regressions, what disappeared and when
  • In which situations the difficulties are most visible
  • What calms and what irritates (sleep, food, anxiety)

Short videos (30-120 seconds)

Ordinary situations, not staged. Film only if it is safe and convenient.

  • How they respond to their name (call 2-3 times from different points)
  • How they ask for help or want something
  • How they play alone
  • How they play with an adult
  • How they transition between activities

Observation diary (ABC)

A simple format: what was before, what the child did, what happened after. 5-10 episodes a week is enough.

When5:30 PM, evening
What was beforeSaid "time to eat"
What the child didThrew a toy, screamed
What happened afterGave 5 more minutes of the tablet

Print it and fill in by hand for a few days before the visit.

Questions to ask

Tailored for: First consultation (pediatrician, family doctor)

  • Which specific developmental signs concern you in my child?
  • Is it necessary to check hearing?
  • Which screening or assessment is worth doing now?
  • Which services are available free of charge?
  • When and with what to come back?
  • Is a consultation with a child psychiatrist or neurologist needed?

How to describe your concerns

Concrete details help the doctor more than general phrases.

does not respond to name

out of three tries responds to maybe one, and only if I am close

speaks poorly

at 2 years 4 months speaks about 10 words, does not connect them into phrases

plays strangely

takes cars and lines them up, does not roll them, plays like this for 20-30 minutes

What is better not to do before the visit

  • Do not 'google the diagnosis' before the visit
  • Do not deliberately test the child at home
  • Do not bring the child hungry or sleepy

This sheet does not replace a consultation with a specialist. It only helps you prepare for one.